Rape is a very sensitive topic that has a lot of meaning behind it. The definition of rape online is “ unlawful sexual activity and usually, sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against a person's will or with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent because of mental illness, mental deficiency, intoxication, unconsciousness, or deception.” (Merriam-Webster). Unfortunately, the only people who are aware of rape are those whose loved ones have experienced this. Which should not be the case. As a culture, we need to take a stand and change the culture.
It becomes a hot topic when you start realizing this happens all around and not many open up to admit it for several reasons. Because now the word “rape” is considered a joke. People who have been rapped are 3 times more likely to suffer a major depressive episode due to the trauma of sexual assault. According to Suicide.org., over 70% of women let their partner seduce them when they don't want to. Seventeen percent of American women have been victims of sexual assault at some point in their lives. Only 39% of rapists get reported to the police, and only 3% of them go to jail. About 13% of the rape victims commit suicide (Caruso).
There have been different occasions where rape has been taken as a joke, the first time she got rapped, her boyfriend broke up with her because she had “cheated on him. He put a knife to her throat and told her he would kill her if she said she didn't want to. When she wanted to report him, people told her she couldn't because she didn't say “no” to him. At least half of the babies that at born to minor women are fathered by adult men. With at least 10 or more age difference. Now girls aren't able to wear skirts without them saying “she’s asking for it.” When she went to a party when she was 14 and wore a skirt and a guy kept touching her butt all night, her mother said it shouldn't have happened if she wore sweatpants. When a 16-year-old girl who had her first orgasm while getting raped, had to watch her 34-year-old rapist go free because she had an orgasm. When a guy friend told her and her friends he had gotten raped by a woman when he was 12, a “friend” laughed at him and he said he should be happy he got laid at a young age. Her 17-year-old best friend's parents let her 14-year-old brother walk outside till 12 pm, but she has to be home at 9. A guy from her old school got raped by another guy, but because he is gay, they said it's not considered rape. A 19-year-old lesbian got raped by a guy, and didn't go to prison because “ he only tried to turn her straight so she would be accepted by her parents.” In some cultures, girls & boys are still getting thrown out of their families because some guy/ girl sexually assaulted them. They're still teaching girls to walk faster at night instead of teaching a guy they shouldn't rape. Because I have to explain “rape”, it makes me angry.
There are times people think they can handle rape if it happens to them. But if they don't report it, there could be another victim after them. We live in a culture where men feel that reporting rape is a weakness because a man’s sexual encounters should always be seen as positive no matter what. Society doesn’t create a safe place for men who have been abused. Women on the other hand are often mocked or blamed when they share their stories. It even gets more complicated for individuals who identify as LGBTQ. It can happen between families and friends, making it even more difficult to speak up.
Rape happens all the time and people don't realize it and often when they do people don't take it seriously. People need to understand that it happens more often than thought. We need to create a world where it needs to be taken seriously. They say that education is one of the most powerful tools to change anything and to take a stand. We need to express ourselves and share our stories. Silence only hurts us. When we don't talk about it rape continues. When we don't talk about it suicide happens. Educating people about rape will save lives.