Relate Ready Assessment

Relate/Ready Assessment For this assignment I completed the Relate assessment because I am not in a premarital or marital situation. I figured before I took the survey that I would get pretty low results in most, if not all the areas that were going to be assessed. From taking this survey, I will talk about what I learned, how it was helpful, and what areas were applicable to the course. From looking at the summarized results of my assessment, I have noticed that in the section on perceived readiness I scored in the challenging area on all except financial readiness but I think that may have been a mistake because I think I put the wrong option and chose my salary as under $20,000 when I only earn an hour wage that is very minimal. This section stood out to me the most I think because it seemed a much more overall result of the assessment. While looking at the result for my family background I saw the title “Attachment Style” and I was anxious to see my results because I know that it’s an area that I struggle in so it was the area that I was hoping to receive some answer from, from taking this assessment. As I read the definition for the attachment style they categorized me in, I felt that they were pretty accurate and that, when I did an interview for my PRA #2, one of the people I interviewed said some of the same things. The area that I seemed to do the best in was the Religiosity/Spirituality section and that the risk factor areas were areas of strength for me and that I had a good marital outlook. I’m not surprised at all by these results because I know that religion is important to me and following the guidelines that have been set really help anyone. It did say one thing about the category I’m in; it said to not rush into a relationship just because I would like to be married which I thought was an important part to add because, especially in this area, a lot of people tend to rush into marriage without really knowing a person and they get married, on average at a younger age then many other places. To be honest, I thought this assessment would help me a lot more than it did. I thought that it would go into more depth on each section making it feel more personal (especially as it said that I would give a twenty page report on my results of the survey. It was helpful in some ways and it has made me realize some things but I feel like it gives a very general answer and doesn’t really tell you how you can improve in that area. It says a little about how you can improve for example, on effective communication, it says to increase empathy and understanding, and how I send and receive the communication of needs, concerns, and desires more effectively but it doesn’t tell me how to do that! The results I got for resolving conflicts and relationship strategies made me feel a little better about myself as many of the other results were in the challenge area or were in the strengths area but were a negative section. I don’t know if I necessarily trust those positive results though because I don’t think that I am good at either of those but maybe I am better at them than I think I am. Every question I answered in the assessment and every topic I read, I think we covered in class. We covered a great deal of material in class on very important issues when it comes to relationships. I’m thankful that we covered some of the areas that I struggle with a little more than some other areas because I tend to struggle on the more important areas like communication but I hope that through taking this class, I can apply the things that I’ve learnt into my present and future realtionships.