Essay About How You And Your Friends Describe You

Have you thought about what others think of you? Without even speaking to or getting to know them personally, everyone has their own unique perspective on everyone. I've asked my friends to fill out a paper with the words that best describe me, ranked from most to least, and to explain why they chose the order they did. My self-concept page 88“The relatively stable set of perceptions each individual hold of herself or himself.” mostly shy and impatient. According to page 77, "Messages that communicate disrespect and disdain through brief verbal or nonverbal displays," I have learned that I have been displaying microaggression and consider myself an outsider because I always stand in the back and listen to conversations rather than starting them. On page 89, I used reflected appraisal, which is defined as "a mirroring of other people's judgments; part of how the self-concept develops." Due to my microaggressions, I have received negative feedback. Since I don't wear makeup, I don't personally believe I'm attractive. When I go outside with my family, I go completely natural. I’m mostly lonely because I lack confidence in approaching strangers and striking up a conversation. I wouldn't consider myself serious because I am usually a goofy person when people meet me, but I have kept a straight face, so many of my friends think I am serious. I would not consider myself courageous as I am afraid. I've always had mental health issues as a child, which has made me fearful and emotional of everything and everyone. I am always willing to assist others, especially my friends and family. I'd always want to make someone laugh, and even if I didn't try too hard, I'd always find a way to make someone laugh. I have used social comparison as read on page 91 “Evaluating oneself in terms of or by comparison to others.” When I compare myself to my family, I don't think I'm all that smart. I have a large family, so trying to be myself while also being popular is difficult. People only know me or have heard of me because of my family, so they have never truly gotten to know me. Forgiving has always been good to me, and it has brought some happiness to people who have hurt me. I can be a perfectionist at times, but not all the time. As I interviewed my friends, I asked them about the “I am” chart that I asked them to fill out. I noticed. that they like to use communication competence on page 21 "the ability to achieve goals in an effective and appropriate manner." When I was face to face with my friend Andrew, he was intrigued and inquired about the interview. As stated on page 182, "nonverbal communication allows us to demonstrate the kinds of relationships we have or want to have with others." As I explained the assignment to him, I watched his facial expressions and body movements to see if he understood what he needed to do. He had a relaxed expression on his face. He was focused on my voice and listening to me, and he was using emblems, which, as stated on page 185, "are culturally understood substitutes for verbal expressions." After explaining the assignment to him, I asked if he understood what was going to happen, and he shook his head yes. As we started the interview, I asked him “out of the words listed on the paper, why did you choose forgiving?” he was relaxed and straight forward and said, “I've seen you around school, always forgiving others when they bump into you or knock your stuff down," he said. He went on to say that he notices me around helping others with their homework or picking things up for them and that I am very generous. Whenever I want to talk to him about something, I'm always straight-faced and to the point. He notices me working on time management whenever we have class together; I always plan ahead of time so that I don't have to worry about it. I also complete my homework at school so that I am not bothered by it. He regards me as courageous because I am always speaking my mind and reaching out to those who are marginalized, and he admires me for it. I don't strike him as a shy person, but when I'm around strangers, I try to avoid them and focus on my friends and family. He hasn’t been around me long enough to tell if I was a perfectionist or not but, I look like I don’t go crazy when I have something that works, I will go with it and not make it perfect. He thinks that I am very popular and never lonely when I am around friends and family. He sees me trying to make multiple jokes even though I know that some wont land. He doesn’t see me as a confident, fearful, or emotional person I am always laughing when I am around him. He said that everyone has their own opinion on attraction and that he always sees me with a friend or family, so I am never alone. I went over to my best friend's house to interview her and her significant other page 89 “A person whose opinion is important enough to affect one’s self-concept strongly.”, and I told them about an interview about who I am to other people. Lia Barthel understood the interview, whereas Christopher was displaying microaggression. "How long will this interview take?" he inquired. I informed him that the interview would last 10 minutes. He was enraged that it was going to take so long, especially since he had to be at work in a few hours. I reassure him that the interview will be over quickly and that he will still be able to get to work on time. As we began the interview, I began with Christopher so that he could get to work on time. "Why was shy your first impression of me? " I asked, my face and body language relaxed. When I asked why he was relaxed and he said, "You were less confident in asking me to be interviewed." He went on to say that when he saw my tattoo peeking out of my left shoulder, he thought I was courageous. He's seen me walking around school, surrounded by people, and talking to them. When we have class together, he notices me working on the assignment after the teacher has finished teaching the lesson, so he thinks I'm smart. When we're talking and someone bumps into me, they apologize and I forgive them, and he sees me as forgiving. When we hang out, I can be serious at times but not all the time, so I can be entertaining and humorous at times. I have never shown any emotion or fear around him. I can be neat as well as confident and enthusiastic at times. After Christopher left for work, I interviewed Lia. We were both relaxed as we began the interview, and I asked her, "Why do you see me as serious?" She told me that when we hang out, she can't tell if I'm being funny or not, but I enjoy making people laugh as well as helping others. She went on to say that I am intelligent in certain subjects and that my tattoo makes me look brave because it is not something she would want to get because it appears painful. According to her, I am a perfectionist when it comes to jigsaw puzzles and shy when I am around certain people. She doesn't see me as forgiving, fearful, or attractive because I can hold a grudge, am afraid of a few things, and am not physically attractive. In addition to being lonely, self-assured, enthusiastic, popular, emotional, and opinionated. She notices me a lot around my family; I'm not very confident, I don't know many people, I don't like to show my emotions, and I just go with the flow. My friend Joseph came by to be interviewed, and after I handed him the chart to fill out, we sat down in my kitchen, facing each other. I was at ease, but he tended to lose track of time, so I informed him that the interview would only last 10 minutes and that he shouldn't be concerned. "Why did you put generous in the first box?" I inquired. "I see you around school, willing to help other people whenever they have dropped something or with an assignment," he said, looking me in the eyes. I was using oculesics, which is defined as "the study of how the eyes can communicate," on page 194. I noticed he was agitated because he kept looking at the clock displayed in my house, despite my assurances that it wouldn't take long, he was still afraid of losing track of time, so he went on to tell me that he sees me as very forgiving, intelligent, courageous, popular, serious, and confident. I've always been willing to help everyone and see both sides of the story when there's an argument, I know a lot of people and have a lot of family members, I always plan things out and get things done, I'm not afraid of anything so I always have my back for others but appear straight faced. He saw me as not being a perfectionist, lonely, shy, enthusiastic, opinionated, emotional, humorous, or attractive. I am seen to be outgoing and enjoys talking to new people, never afraid of big moments and likes to face them head on, keeps a busy schedule sometimes ready for the day other times I am not, never set on one opinion very open minded, keep my head on straight highly unlikely to lose my cool, doesn't display humor as much as it can be serious for the most part, and everyone has their own opinion on attraction. Looking back on the interviews, I realized that I am very generous, serious, and popular in the eyes of some people. I understand that everyone has their own ideas about attraction, so I wasn't concerned about that word appearing in the chart. I don't see why I should change the other descriptive words about myself because I believe that being enthusiastic, like the other words in the chart, is a good thing. However, I intend to improve my serious expression. I have a straight face, and I intend to try to smile more often when I am with my family, friends, and coworkers. As for holding grudges, I don't want to be like that, and I want to work on it with my friends and family.