Concept of Loss

Concept of Loss 1. Definition Lambert & Lambert say that: loss is a state of an individual parting with something that previously existed, the possibility of it becoming nonexistent, whether it occurs in part or in whole. Loss is an experience that every individual has experienced throughout their life and tends to experience it again, although in a different form. 2. Factors that influence the loss reaction, depending on: a. The meaning of loss is different for each individual. For example, a model woman will have a greater loss if she loses one of her limbs compared to an ordinary working woman. b. Socio-cultural. Sociocultural factors influence the meaning of loss. c. Belief/spiritual d. Sex/gender roles e. Socioeconomic status. High socioeconomic status influences loss. f. Individual physical condition 3. Type of loss Losses are divided into two types, namely: a. Actual or apparent loss. This loss is very easily recognized or identified by other people, such as the loss of a partial limb, amputation, death of a very significant/loved person. b. Loss of perception. This type of loss is only experienced by someone and is difficult to prove, for example: someone who stops working/is laid off causes their feelings of independence and freedom to decrease. 4. Types of loss There are 5 types of loss, namely: a. Losing a loved one, and a very significant or important person is one of the most disturbing types of loss – loss type. The death of someone who is loved and meaningful in an individual's life will cause loss for those who love him. This is due to the loss of intimacy, intensity and dependence as well as the existing bond or relationship, the death of a husband/wife or child usually has an extraordinary emotional impact and cannot be covered up. b. Losing yourself (loss of self) is the loss of oneself or one's mental perception, including loss of feelings of attractiveness, oneself, loss of physical and mental abilities, as well as loss of one's role in life and its impact. Loss of aspects of the self may be temporary or permanent, partial or complete. Several other aspects that a person can lose, for example loss of hearing, memory at a young age, bodily functions. c. Loss of external objects, for example losing personal or shared objects, jewelry, money or work. The depth of grief a person feels for a lost object depends on the meaning and use of the object. d. Loss of a well-known environment is defined as the separation of an individual from a well-known environment, including family background, for a period of time or permanently. For example, moving to another city, you will have new neighbors and a new adjustment process. e. Loss of life/death. A person will definitely experience death, whether they die in feelings, thoughts and responses to activities or people around them, up to actual death. Some people respond differently to death. 5. Stages (Phases) of Loss The loss phase starts from: Denial Anger Playing Depression Acceptance a.PhaseDenial 1) The first reaction in this phase is shock, not believing reality 2) The verbal expression in this phase is usually that the individual says it's impossible, I don't believe it happened 3) Physical changes, tired, weak, pale, nausea, diarrhea, respiratory problems, rapid heartbeat, crying, restlessness b. PhaseAnger(angry) 1) Individuals begin to realize the reality of what is happening 2) An angry response arises that is projected onto other people 3) The physical reactions that arise are: red face, rapid pulse, restlessness, insomnia, clenched hands and aggressive behavior c. PhaseBargaining(bargaining) 1) Verbal expressions in this phase are; why did it have to happen to me? If only it wasn't me who was sick, if only I was careful d. PhaseDepression(Depression/Sad) 1). Showing a withdrawn attitude, not wanting to talk or being discouraged 2) Symptoms in this phase the individual refuses to eat, complains of difficulty sleeping, fatigue, decreased libido e.Acceptance Phase(Accept) 1) Thoughts on the lost object begin to diminish 2) The verbal expression in this phase is "what can I do so that I recover quickly, well in the end I have to have surgery" 6. Signs and Symptoms Symptoms that arise in patients with loss include: a. Unsuccessful adaptation to loss b. Depression, prolonged denial c. Slow emotional reactions d. Unable to accept normal life patterns Try to mention the signs and symptoms of very good loss. Signs that may be found in loss patients include: a. Social isolation or withdrawal b. Failing to develop new relationships/interests c. Failing to put life back together after loss