Bullying is one of the worries that beings deal with every single day. This kind of harassment is very common to teenagers; they wake up with fear of attending school because they have to suffer another day of getting bullied. This is a very alarming topic for today’s society. This essay will give additional information and a better understanding of what bullying is really about. This will also serve as an eye opener that this society is a hypocrite society where awareness and ignorance is raised at the same time by the same people.
Bullying, a typical concern in the current society in which many are still confused and lack knowledge about. This is a behavioral problem wherein use of bodily strength or harshness of words towards any being is present. The outcome of bullying does not only cause harm to one’s physical attributes, but also affects them emotionally and mentally. Bullying as a kind of violence in which actions are repeatedly done by the bully themselves, most likely to be school aged children. Verbal, relationship, physical, most used by teenagers, cyberbullying are the four main kinds of bullying. Physical bullying take place when a person uses their bodily strength to harm their target. This may be kicking, pushing, etc. Verbal bullying is the use of harsh words to insult a person they dislike. This is most likely humiliating, name calling, etc. Then goes relationship bullying, this is when a person separates another person from its peers usually through gossiping, spreading malicious rumors, etc. Last but not least is cyberbullying, which mainly occur through the Internet, with the help of technology. This comprises bashing, use editing to change one’s appearance to make fun of them, etc. The knowledge of knowing what bullying is and its way of occurrence increases our awareness towards how we treat the people and to help the avoidance of hypocrisy surrounding one another.
There are 3 main people involved in bullying: the bully, the target, the bystander. Frey, Hirschstein, Edstrom, and Snell (2009) said that a bully is a person who intentionally harms a person. Typical bullies are controlling, hot-tempered, does not appreciate others and are aggressive towards adults. Most bullies came from a family where they lack parental guidance or have been abused physically and emotionally at home. The victim, on the other hand, has low self-esteem and are physically weak. In addition, children and adolescents with obvious physical and mental issues are more likely to be bullied in school because of their conditions. Even children who excel in academics, or those who have different cultural background and new students also undergo bullying. Parents of the victims tend to overprotect their child, which makes it hard for their children to communicate in school. Bystanders are the students who does not participate but have witnessed the bullying incident. They can be part of the problem or solution to the problem. Sometimes bystanders usually do not interfere with the bullies in the fear of being the next victim because they also lack the skills to stand up for the victim.
This act of violence often happens in public and private schools from elementary to high school. Places, where bullies tend to attack their victims is where there is a lack or no adult supervision, like the playground, where elementary students frequently experience bullying. Bullying also takes place inside the classroom during class and class breaks or when the teacher is not around. Restrooms, corridors, locker areas and other school premises where teachers and other authorities do not usually stay are some places where students say they have been bullied. The mention of attributes such as when, where, who is involved provides the background study toward the accumulating events of bullying, particularly in school. We are not to take this situation lightly, students mainly bystanders, instead of being a witness we must build courage to take action, to avoid the ignorance of the people, this sets as a good example and a courageous act.
Bullying, one of the dangerous acts out there, but what are its causes? Bullying happens due to some circumstances, such as the bully does not like the person or simply because they somewhat feel tough about it. They victimize people due to multiple reasons, such as jealousy, insecurity or misunderstanding from one individual to another. These are just one of the few common factors that causes this behavior within this toxic society. People judge these aspects thinking so highly of themselves, that they forget the word respect. Some people just cannot accept that there are other people that could be better than them in some ways. Another cause of bullying is also abuse. Some bullies were abused that is why they put their anger out to others, while other bullies seek attention from others which they do not get at home.
These acts of bullying can affect both the bullies and the victims, and some of the damages of these effects can be permanent. The effects of bullying to the victims are that they are forced to skip classes due to fear, self-harming, develops eating disorder. Some effects can be crucial to their mental well-being, and these are social anxiety, depression, which can even be the cause of suicide in most teens. The effects for the bully are that they become more violent if their acts were not tolerated in their early years and can be easily be involved in fights. The effects for the bully also include poor performance in school due to suspension of classes because of his actions, having a difficulty maintaining a good relationship with others, and increased risk of substance abuse. Bullying can also have long-term effects on the bully, such as ending up as an unemployed, risk of abusing their spouse and children, and substance abuse.
As already mentioned, bullying is one of the dangerous acts out there, but why is that millions claim that they are against bullying, but are still oblivious toward it? Knowledge of its affect and the reason behind why there is a bully is a wakeup call for us to take action rather than to ignore.
In the first paragraph of the essay, I have mentioned that we are a kind of society where awareness and ignorance are raised at the same time by the same people. To understand this, here is a recent incident of bullying that blew up last 20th of December 2018. A video of a junior high school student and taekwondo athlete of Ateneo de Manila University where he attacked his fellow student in the school’s restroom, which caused the victim’s nose to bleed. Days after the video went viral, the Ateneo de Manila University released a statement that the bully has been dismissed from the school and is no longer allowed to enter the school premises. The Philippine Taekwondo Association also said that the bully is in an indefinite ban from the sport. The video gained a lot of attention from the netizens. Various opinions were put forward regarding this issue: some gave constructive criticisms about the school and the bully’s family, while others commend the victim for choosing dignity over violence. But in reality, more people gave more fuel to the fire. Awareness was raised, but ignorance was raised higher. Meme after meme, hate comments after hate comments, some netizens even posted their address online. People did this to a 15-year-old bully because it served him right for what he has done to the victim. Most of them were against bullying, but there they are doing the same thing on him. People should have helped a 15-year-old bully see his mistakes and learn from them instead of going overboard by bashing him all over the Internet.
People had the choice to stop bullying, but they choose to continue. There are a lot of other ways to teach not just him, but also all the other bullies to teach them their lessons. Bullies should be given proper sanctions by their school. Their parents should undergo counseling to help them become more responsible parents to their children. And for the victims of bullying, do not keep the pain to yourself and be brave to speak out and as help from others, do not let the fear prevent you from giving the bully the punishment they deserve. Fight the bully not with the way they want you to, but by defending yourself in the right way. Bystanders can also help stop bullying by standing up for the victims through reporting the incident to the authorities. Schools can conduct seminars to help students know more about bullying and programs that will protect its students from bullying. Parents could also help their children who suffer from bullying by being their support system. Parents should make their children feel that they are not alone and that they are loved. The society has more power to stop or to continue bullying. This society should learn how to accept, accept that everyone is different in their own unique way, and nothing is wrong with that. And if this society cannot accept that, then this society really is a hypocrite society where awareness and ignorance is raised at the same time by the same people.
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