Trust in one’s value as a human being is a valuable psychological tool and a highly positive factor in life in general; it is associated with success, good relationships also satisfaction. Possessing little self-esteem can result in people being discouraged, falling short of their potential, or tolerating abusive relationships and circumstances.
On the other hand, too much self-love results in an off-putting sense of entitlement and being unable to learn from mistakes. It can also be a symptom of pathological narcissism, in which people can act in an egocentric, narcissistic, and deceptive way. Maybe no other subject of self-help has given rise to so many advice and many (often conflicting)
Self-esteem is how we respect ourselves and view one another. It is founded on our own opinions and beliefs, which can sometimes feel very hard to change.
Your self-esteem will influence how you like and trust yourself as a person who can make decisions, and say that you know your strengths, and that positive things feel able to try different or challenging things that show kindness to yourself, move past mistakes without punishing yourself unfairly for taking the time you need to believe that you are valuable and are good enough to believe that you deserve happiness.
Self-esteem was a measure of how a person felt about herself. If you think you’re a pretty rad dude or duetted and believe you can reach your goals— then, congratulations, you’re extremely self-esteemed. If you think your life is a metaphorical, never-ending car crash and somebody’s going to have to smoke cat turds to love you ever, well, sorry to say, you’re probably low in self-esteem.
Self-esteem work has usually been performed based on one of three conceptualizations, and each conceptualization has been viewed almost independently of each other. First, self-esteem was studied as a result. Researchers have focused on mechanisms that generate or impede self-esteem (e.g., Coopersmith 1967; Harter 1993; Peterson & Rollins 1987; Rosenberg 1979). Second, self-esteem was examined as a self-motive, acknowledging people’s tendency to behave in ways that preserve or improve self-assessment (Kaplan 1975; Tessier 1988). Lastly, self-esteem was examined as a shield for oneself, offering experimental security
The word ‘self-esteem’ is most often used to refer to a component of personality that reflects the way people feel about themselves in general. Studies call this form of global self-esteem or trait self-esteem this form of self-esteem as it is fairly lasting, both in time and circumstance. In this book, when referring to that variable, I used the word self-esteem (without any qualifiers).
Self-esteem attempts ranged from a fixation on primal libidinal desires (Kornberg, 1975) to the illusion that one is a valuable member of a real universe (Solomon, Greenberg, & Pyszczynski, 1991). I take a much less exotic approach and describe self-esteem as regards feelings
Everything positive the psychologists assessed then seemed to be linked to high self-esteem— good grades, won employment, high incomes, mental health, and so on — while everything poor seemed to be related to low self-esteem— crime, adolescent pregnancy, delinquency, violent behavior.
Self-esteem has been created as a result, motive, and buffer but there is no overarching self-esteem theory. It is proposed in this article that identity theory can provide a theoretical framework for incorporating the different self-esteem conceptualizations. We propose that self-esteem is the product of the self-verification process that takes place within groups, retaining both the individual and the group, and the essential component in it. The verification of position identities increases self-esteem based on an individual’s value and effectiveness. The self-esteem built up by self-checking prevents the negative feelings that arise when self-checking becomes troublesome.
The term self-esteem is also used to refer to the way people evaluate their various abilities and attributes. For example, a person who doubts his ability in school is sometimes said to have low academic self-esteem, and a person who thinks she is popular and well-liked is said to have high social self- esteem. In a similar vein, people speak of having high self-esteem at work or low self-esteem in sports. The terms self-confidence and self-efficacy have also been used to refer to these beliefs, and many people equate self-confidence with self-esteem. I prefer to call these beliefs self-evaluations or self-appraisals, as they refer to the way people evaluate or appraise their abilities and personality characteristics. Self-esteem and self-evaluations are related—people with high self-esteem think they have many more positive qualities than do people with low self- esteem—but they are not the same thing. A person who lacks confidence in school might still like himself a lot. Conversely, a person who thinks she is attractive and popular might not feel good about herself at all. Unfortunately, psychologists don’t always make this distinction, often using the terms self- esteem and self-evaluations interchangeably. The causal association between self-esteem and self-evaluations is also unclear. Cognitive models of self-esteem assume a bottom-up process (e.g., Harter, 1986; Marsh,
Finally, the term self-esteem is used to refer to rather momentary emotional states, especially those arising from a positive or negative outcome. This is what people mean when they talk about encounters that strengthen or challenge their self-esteem.
For example, a person might say that after getting a big raise, her self-esteem was sky-high, or a person might say that after divorce his self-esteem was really low. After William James (1890), we’ll refer to those emotions as self-feelings or self-worth feelings. Definitions of what we mean by feeling proud or happy with ourselves (on the positive side), or embarrassed and shamed about ourselves (on the negative side)
Ironically, there is no agreement as to why people are inspired to feel positive about self-worth. Many claims that these sentiments are intrinsically satisfying; as James (1890) put it, ‘the simple and essential endowments of our existence’ (1890, p.306). Some (Gergen, 1971; Kaplan, 1975) suggest that positive self-worth feelings are favored primarily because they have come to be correlated with positive outcomes, like other people’s recognition or achievement. Others still believe that self-esteem is desirable because it imbues life with meaning and makes one’s inevitable death more tolerable (Greenberg et al., 1992). Whatever may be the root of that need, a desire to promote, preserve,